What did you want to be when you were little? What held your attention for hours on end, surprising your parents with how long you could focus? What games did you play? What books did you love? What did you pretend to be most of the time? I’ve always held the belief that at a certain age, we knew what we wanted in life." My little daughter, the girliest of little girls if I ever raised one, came up to me one day and said she wanted to be a puppy doctor. We don’t have a dog. I’ve never used the term “vet” before. But I remember the days when my city-girl mom indulged my games of having an imaginary horse, sparking a lifelong love and motivating me to start this blog and podcast series. So by golly, this kid is getting a toy veterinary set for Christmas. My daughter might change her mind and want to pursue something else. That toy set might lay forgotten in a week as she moves on to something else in her journey of discovering herself. But I will never let her settle on anything less than her deepest desire. Just as I’m sure many of you other mothers out there would do as well. We were once so passionate about our desires. We were once those little girls, dreaming and hoping and creating our futures. So why do we allow ourselves to settle?" My mother, a wise and patient person (did I mention she turned the car around halfway to the grocery store because I’d left my imaginary horse at home?), explains things this way: Life is like a restaurant. Not a McDonald’s or Burger King, but a high-end, cook-everything-personalized-for-you bistro. You can order anything you want. Money isn’t an issue. So you order your absolute favorite dish, all the add-ons and extras, special drinks and appetizer and dessert included, and you sit to wait. After a while, you get that itch in the back of your head, asking, “Is that really what I want?” So you call the waiter over to adjust your order. You notice what your friends have ordered and you think to yourself, “Ooh, that sounds good, too.” and you call the waiter again. More time passes and your order has gone from this amazing meal to a snack to just a glass of water. You wonder what happened and why you aren’t happy. And why did the glass of water come so fast, but not your original meal? We tend to settle for what’s immediately available and, when we don’t get what we want in the time frame we want it in, we doubt. “Am I worth it?”, “Are my wants silly and frivolous?”, “Do I really deserve this?” What if you heard your child say these things? Do you tell your child, “No, you can’t have that, you aren’t worth it”? Do you deny them something they want, not because it isn’t in your budget, but because you think it’s “silly”? Do you tell your little one they don’t deserve what they want? Absolutely not. So why do you do it to yourself? Those desires were placed within you for a reason. Pursue them, you’ll be amazed at where they take you.
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AuthorRegan Guerra is a Personality Geek. As an ENFJ 4w3, she dreams big, wanting to build a ranch where others can rediscover themselves and learn to reimagine life the way it's supposed to be. Archives
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